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[Admin]

I'm sorry for not being aware of your initial or entire situation, but I have been aware of a good part of it, but my puzzlement concerns the father....is he your son?

Is this how things got to be what they are? Your son has had these children with different women, and now wants to "win" them back?

It's not not that important to know, just curious, however as far as these circumstances go, you are in a very precarious situation, because just as indicated that if they are approved for one then they should be able to have the others, as is true with your end of it, so it is a delicate manner of presenting the case and reasoning, since it is going to turn out to be all or nothing.

I can only hope your attorney is slick enough to impress upon the court, that even if they (he) did do what was the minimum required, that does not mean he is any better equipped to handle three , let alone one. So if she can show the court that such a decision, based on both, the children's current reactions to the thought of losing their little sibling, and possibly losing you as their care giver, and all intents and purposes their mother, that this will have a devastating emotional impact to these young children, that they are likely to never get over or in the least require long term therapy, and thet the father is incapable of paying for such treatment to ensure the emotional stability of these children,, and that even if the time you have in so far with the first two to leverage enough of a case for it NOT to be an all or nothing result, no other out come from your current position as their guardian can be returned with out doing a huge disservice to the needs of these children.

You might also try having a therapy session for them with a social worker or psychologist (the better the degree the more weight their input will carry) to interview each of them separately, and alone, recording their responses with out their knowing you will be listening, and offer her impressions as to the extent of negative impact this will be for them, and their fragility and emotional frailty, as well as the fact that if the court does in fact decide they will rule in his favor, she can question his capabilities as being a satisfactory parent, that is equipped to be able to heal and comfort, or support these children's mental disposition when they become resistant to every aspect of his behavioral expectations because of the deep resentment they will feel for him having put them through what they have so far, not to mention what will be the condition of their mental and emotional states when he goes back to doing whatever it was that deemed him unfit to care for the two in the first place, because three very troubled kids, is well beyond the coping skills of someone who could barely make the initial requirements, that even allowed him the right to present this before a judge, just because he was able to control his own actions, and/or improve his situation, in order to accomodate what the court felt was the shortcoming(s) leading to their being placed with you in the first place.

Now if this is in fact your son we are referring to, since you mention different mothers I am assuming one of those was not your daughter....then you should know him well enough to determine what his follow through likeliness will be, concerning these metrics used to entertain this concept of returning even the one back to him, especially when even that one's mother is not mentioned, and assumed out of this particular episode of their lives, to arm your attorney with previous difficult life circumstances that he was unable to follow through and complete, or achieve in the past, as a "recognized pattern" of going to length to get what he wants and as soon as he does, never follows through with the remaining difficulties required to successfully complete any previous endeavors.

This will hopefully, along with the severe negative impact on the children, sway the judge's consideration to siding with what will ultimately be best for the children despite the usual "second chance rule" that obviously is something that should be considered being changed, and possibly lobbying your congressman (get some friends to do it, we know you all do not have that kind of time on your hands, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be done) to reconsider that bill and striking it from the next review to not continue such a practice just because someone was able to satisfy the minimum requirements depicted by the court, since it in no way considers the well being of the children which the judge should not need to be reminded of, or be unabe to sleep with a clear conscience for how their decisions expose many children to unacceptable and sometimes horrific circumstances that would otherwise never impacted thier little lives because some pervious lawmaker decided that biological parents have any more rights to those children they have under circumstances that would never suffice for raising happy emontionall and mentally balanced children.


I hope this gives you something to work with, and have enough time before the ruling is finalized to state these aspects of your case for providing the best possible alternative for your children.

Best of luck to you,
Admin!