Gaining Custody

[Grandma_Bananarama]

Gaining custody happened so fast, and with such ease, I feel almost guilty after hearing other grandparent's tales. One day my daughter was arrested and the kids were staying with me, the next day, the judge awarded me temporary custody. The biggest problem to gaining permanent custody was the amount of parents I had to deal with. There are three fathers for the four kids. Each one had a lawyer to represent them, only one showed up to any of the hearings. Six months later I was awarded permanent custody because none of the parents had followed through with their case plans.

So here we are, the kids are 2.5 years older. Share how your grandchildren were brought into your home.

[Grandma_Bananarama]

What I have a problem with is we are given permanent custody of these babies, love and care for them for years, yet the courts still allow these neglectful parents to come back and potentially take them away from the only "Mommy and Daddy" they know. Why can't the courts just terminate their rights. How can the friend of the court allow her to come to see your granddaughter while still on drugs? Isn't visitation at your discretion? What has your lawyer said?

[Admin]

Just a thought here Nannie, but maybe the mother got wind of her "gifted" child and now wants rights, that obviously she has not earned, and certainly have previously given up, and probably doesn't deserve, however I as I am sure the others here, will be on gram's side on this and will be putting our energies in to just those thoughts!

Best of luck to you both,
Admin!

[Grandma_Bananarama]

Thanks for keeping us posted. Has she had a recent background check and drug test on the mother? I had a judge tell my stepdaughter to get out of the adult entertainment industry and get a respectable job before he would even consider giving her custody again. Just curious.

[Grandma_Bananarama]

Actually, McKeener said that to me regarding the situation with the kid's mother and the bio father of the little girl. THere may be no other common ground but the wish to keep his daughter safe. Can't ask for much more than that. Manipulators do themselves in every time.

[Admin]

Glad to hear things took a favorable turn, I checked yesterday but I guess you didn't post yet.
I just hope it doesn't also allow for the enemy to gain credence, legitimate or not, oh by the way, the saying you guys are referring to is an ancient Latin translation which translated to "The enemy of my enemy is my friend". I can't recall, at the moment, what the context of the saying was, but it works here well too!

Admin!

[Admin]

It seems Grammy may be also trying fix a mistake she made with her daughter, knowing she might have been able to prevent her granddaughter from turning out so bad from poor motherly influences, I am only concerned with the toll this must be taking on the only person who is putting the child's needs first, and hope she lives long enough to complete the task, I am sorry if this sounds a little morbid, but as a great grandmother I am assuming she is like 20 years older than us, and I remember what influence the generation gap had with my parents and me, I can't even fathom what it will be like for the girl, and also if, god forbid, anything incapacitated Grammy, what is the back up contingency? Who is next in line to care for this girl? sound like you two should finish mending the fences and have her name you as beneficiary care provider for her, as it would probably be a good idea for doodlebug to get to know her older sister, after all is said and done, she too will out grow her care providers and will need someone she can turn to, but I am glad to hear things are rolling in the right direction, please advise as to when the next court date will be so we can all put our thoughts and prayers in the right place again!

Admin!